How do we do it?

With the recent school stabbing in our area it got T and I thinking about the Beans future.  How do you make sure that as your children get older they understand to walk away from physical confrontation?  Fights aren’t fights anymore.  Fighting involves guns and knives now.  When I was in high school, and when our parents were in school, fighting involved fists and maybe a foot or two, now “kids” resort to real violence to settle their disputes.

How do you teach your kids the right lessons along the way so that they know it is far better to walk away from these types of situation while still keeping their dignity.  I don’t want my kids to be bullied, I don’t want them to be picked on and teased.   I’m also all for standing up for oneself and for what you believe in, but not at the expense of your life.

How do you give your kids the right foundation to become what they want, what they are good at, what they are passionate about without sounding like a preacher?   How do you teach them to respect each other and oneself?  How do you make sure they love their sibling, parents and family.  How do you make sure your kids talk with you about anything?  How do you do all this without becoming a parent that your kid hates.  I know all of these hard decisions are in the future for the Beans but shouldn’t we start now with giving them the love and attention they deserve.  Does a happy child make a happy adult? 

You quickly realize when you become a parent that you have this precious being that you have to be so careful with.  What we do now and in the next few years is going to shape who they become.  How can we make sure we don’t screw that up?

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One response to “How do we do it?

  1. I think the best way is to lead by example, and monitor what they see and hear. Other than that, what can we do?

    You need to move to the Boonies with me!

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